How To Become A Published Book Author

Writing a book can make you very happy. However, it is not easy to get your creative work published.

Many people dream about writing novels. However, they never take any step towards fulfilling this dream and end up writing no book.

Some people nurture the dream of becoming published authors. They start writing something, but leave the work mid way. They lack the patience required to finish writing novels. They are never able to achieve the dream of authoring books.

Only few people have the patience to start writing something and finishing it in spite of all the obstacles. These people are really gutsy. They have the persistence to work hard to achieve their dreams in spite of all daily-life challenges. Only some people are able to complete their manuscript.

You feel very good when you have finished writing something, whether it is a novel or a piece of poetry. You feel like you have achieved a big dream. Now there is a big challenge of getting your work published by a good book publishing house. It is not easy to get your novel published. The reality is that book publishers judge your book on so many criteria, and then decide if they want to publish it or not. If you are a first time writer, then expect rejection from by many of them.

If you want to make sure that your book has a good chance of getting published, then write it keeping in mind the market needs. Many manuscripts get rejected only because they are not targeted at a certain segment of readers. If your novel is boring and has no appeal for any segment of readers then it is most likely to be rejected by a book publisher.

It is recommended that you send the synopsis, author biography and a sample chapter to as many publishers as possible. It is never possible to know if your book will be published by a certain publisher. So, just to enhance your chance, make sure to send the proposal to many publishers. You never know which one will like your work.

If you fail to get any publisher for your book then it is suggested that you should go for self-publishing. As an increasing number of young people are writing books, some startups are enabling new authors to publish their books and distribute them, mostly on digital platforms, at a very economical rate. You should take benefit of that opportunity.

You Need Spine To Get Dream Clients

During the past year, I’ve doubled my rate and tripled project volume. I love 95% of my clients and have 0% client from hell.

Long story short – I stopped being “nice” and started showing a sh*t ton of spine the first moment I talk to a potential client.

It isn’t about sitting on my bum and “attracting” dream clients.

It’s about proactively and apologetically being clear on my approach so clients can self-select before engaging my services.

When we work together, they’re trained/nudged to roll my way with clear instruction. (Not insisting that it’s the best way, but I believe it’s the best way for me to deliver the best results for my clients.) Often I explain the reason for following a certain process to set up a co-creation relationship.

Here’s the long story and how you can turn prospects into dream clients:

“I want my dream client to share my POV”

Very well, then you have to be clear about your POV from the get go!

IMHO, working with clients who share your POV is super important so there won’t be an uphill battle trying to “sell” your work and prove your approach every step of the way.

From the get go, when you talk to potential clients, be forthright about your POV. Be opinionated. Be willing to be offensive. Don’t be nice, be clear.

In fact, your content is a great vehicle to share your values, convictions, and POV and help you prime the conversations.

Tell your potential client how you’d approach her challenges and gauge if it resonates. If it doesn’t, then it may be best for everyone if you let it go.

“I want my clients to respect my expertise and value my opinions”

Then behave like an expert! Have an opinion and stand by it!

If you don’t respect your expertise and opinion, then how can you expect others to respect you or have confidence in you?

Of course, you know your stuff. But do you have the words to articulate what you do and how you do it in a way that makes you stand taller?

On the flip side, earning respect also means acknowledging your own limits and not puffing up when something is not your area of expertise. No need to be apologetic – just state the fact: this is what I know about this topic, and I don’t consider it to be my area of expertise. I recommend seeking the help of ________.

Don’t hang onto a client or prospect if there’s no mutual trust and respect in the relationship. It’s soul sucking and won’t allow you to do good work.

“I want low maintenance clients with good boundary”

Other people’s boundary problem is not your problem unless you have a boundary problem. Keep your hands to yourself and you’ll be OK.

I get it, not everyone is a project management bitch like yours truly who can smell sh*tty boundary from miles away and have allergic reactions to scope creep. And it’s all good.

Start your work with any client with a clear scope and “rules of engagement.” Make sure you stick to your guns and don’t be afraid to call out issues early on. Don’t let anything fester.

Train your clients to adhere to YOUR rules, designed to help you deliver the best results for them. When everyone goes by the way you want to roll, you don’t have to go about handholding them all the time and yep, you get low maintenance clients!

“I don’t want my clients nickel-and-diming me. I want them to pay on time, at the fee I demand”

That’s easy… don’t discount. State your fee and shut the hell up. Take it or leave it, your clients’ money problem is not yours to sweat over.

The more hem-and-haw someone is about your fee, the more likely he’s going to be high maintenance and the less likely to pay on time.

Be ready to walk away instead of bending over backward to get this client. It’s not worth the stress and certainly not fair that this one crappy client would suck all your energy, leaving you nothing to serve your gold-star clients.

The problem with sh*t client is that the interaction takes up a lot of emotional energy and mental space. It impacts your ability to do good work – which is the foundation of hmm, everything.

TL;DR – what I’m saying is, you can be proactive about getting gold-star clients in the door, and/or train them to become your dream clients. All you need is some spine… and grow a pair.

21 Success Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires by Brian Tracy – Book Review

Title and Author: 21 Success Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires by Brian Tracy

Synopsis of Content:

Brian Tracy is a very successful business man and consultant who also has some higher education. He has developed a reputation for his knowledge of what works in business. He has worked with and studied self made millionaires and other successful people and here provides the simple formula for success.

In this simple and very brief little book Tracy covers his list of 21 essentials to be a self made millionaire. Nothing here will surprise you however the style and manner of his presentation is enjoyable and easy to follow.

Tracy touches on the true essentials for personal success. Each chapter is no more than 4 pages long. The entire book including index is only 80 pages long. You can sit down and read this little gem in an hour.

If you find yourself struggling with success (or failure) and you do not know where to start to change your life to move on to success this is a great primer. Read it more than once and absorb the wisdom here. It is the genuine thing.

His chapters address the importance of having a big dream; developing a clear sense of direction and maintaining it; seeing yourself in control of your own destiny by seeing yourself self employed; do what you love to do; commit to excellence; work longer and harder; dedicate yourself to lifelong learning; pay yourself first; master the details of your business; dedicate yourself to serving others; maintain absolute integrity; concentrate on your highest priorities; develop a reputation for speed and dependability; climb from peak to peak; practice self discipline in all things; unlock your creativity; associate with the right people; take good care of your health; be decisive and action oriented; never allow failure to be an option and be forever persistent.

These are all tried and true. They are all the gold standard of success advice. Tracy gives some brief illustrations and develops each item only long enough to explain it.

Readability/Writing Quality:

This book is very easy to read. Each chapter is short. The entire book can be read an hour or less.

Notes on Author:

Brian Tracy is a professional speaker, trainer and consultant. He is also a self-made millionaire.

He has a Masters Degree from Columbia Pacific University. He has worked with over 22 different companies over the years. He began lecturing and teaching in 1981 and has done so ever since, translated in 20 languages around the world.

Three Great Ideas You Can Use:

1. You must develop your sense of direction and then commit yourself to seeing through your dreams through action.

2. Master your business and your own potential through continued education in your area of business and through constant learning to improve your own abilities.

3. Practice self discipline and persistence, the two most important qualities to reach success.

Publication Information:

21 Success Secrets of Self Made Millionaires by Brian Tracy

Copyright: 2001 by Brian Tracy

Published by Executive Books

General Rating: Very Good

Where Is Your Dream Partner?

Love. Such a beautiful thing when it’s right. We all want to love and be loved. And we are worthy and deserving of love. Most of us have made mistakes in relationships before and hopefully we’ve learned our lessons as we try to move closer to manifesting ‘the one‘. I believe we can all have what we want including our dream partner. However, the truth must be told that there are some things that can prohibit us from receiving the love we desire. And it starts with us from the inside out. Here are a few things to consider:

Space. Some of us are asking for a partner when in reality there is no room in our lives for him/her. You have to make space for what you’re asking for. For example, if you are wishing and hoping for your dream husband/wife but someone is currently in their place (you’re in a relationship, situationship, friends w/benefits), there is no room for them. Be honest with yourself. You need to clean up some stuff in your life so you have the space for what you’re asking for. Even if it wasn’t a relationship, the principle remains that you may need to do some spring cleaning; get rid of the old to make room for the new. Love can only come where it’s welcomed, where there is space for it. So if you’re holding onto the very person or relationship you need to let go of, chances are that it’s blocking your blessing.

Forgiveness. You have to forgive yourself and others. Many of us are still holding onto old hurts and disappointments that are weighing us down emotionally and mentally. This is also a part of spring cleaning. You have to let go of the past. Holding onto grudges only hurts you, not the other person. That person may have moved on with their life yet you are still a prisoner in your own mind. Let go. Release. When you don’t, they keep the power. Forgive them. Forgiveness is for yourself. It does not mean that you condone what they may have done but that you love yourself enough to forgive them, yourself, and release it so you can move forward.

Clarity. Do you know what you want? Do you know the core values that are important in your own life? You have to be clear on what’s important to you so you are clear in the qualities you need from in your dream partner. In addition, you also need to become that which you want to attract. Move away from the fantasy and the idea of love and get real clear about what you really need but also where you really are in life. What are you deal breakers? In other words, what is non-negotiable? It shouldn’t be anything superficial but more values-based. I believe two people should be aligned to each other’s overall life visions. No relationship is perfect and I do believe in balance but there should be compatibility in lifestyles.

Love is easy. But when we’re not clear, holding onto old crap, and truly don’t have any space in our lives for it, it becomes a bit more difficult to attract. Let’s clean house. Do some internal spring cleaning so you can make room for bigger and better and all of your hearts desires. Because you deserve it.

Book Review – I’ll Cross the River by C Hope Finchbaugh

Courage and Hope in the Midst of Persecution

C. Hope Flinchbaugh’s “I’ll Cross the River” is a fictional account of the heart rending drama taking place in North Korea today. Her novel is a composite of stories drawn from real life testimonies and interviews of refuges and persecuted Chinese Christians near the border of North Korea.

“I’ll Cross the River” is based on the lives of two women and two interwoven dreams. Their lives converge as God’s plan unfolds. Young Soon, recently widowed and pregnant, is facing a struggle to provide for her two starving children. She is steeped in a heritage of loyalty to a man god, Kim Il Sung, and is bombarded with Communist propaganda. Through the testimony of her brother, Young Soon is drawn to the God that loves. She dreams that her unborn son will grow up in another land. Learning that in conditions beyond North Korea children were not left to starve, Young Soon decided to risk her life and defect with her new born infant and young son.

Mei Lin, a young Chinese evangelist, felt called to make a mission trip deep into the remote mountain villages China. She had a dream of a baby crying from the muddy waters of a river. Her dream left her unsettled, and she took the dream as a message from God and interceded in the behalf of a young boy and the baby as they reached out to her for rescue.

Although this is a fictional account, Flinchbaugh writes with such realism and passion that I felt I was reading an actual biography. I was staggered by the horror of statistics that tell of the four million children who have died of starvation in North Korea since 1995.

Flinchbaugh’s writing is sensitive, compassionate and articulate. “I’ll Cross the River” is a wake up call to prayer and a call to action. The reader is provided with suggested resources and suggestions for ways to get involved in providing hope in this human tragedy. This is a book that should be read by Christians everywhere, and should be made available in every library in America. “I’ll Cross the River” is an important book for concerned Christians.

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Steel Fetters by Tina Fernandez

Miss Afia Rana is a beautiful young lady who has landed her dream job. She’s an airline stewardess flying for India’s Southern Airlines. She makes frequent trips to Bombay, Mumbai, and the famous Juhu Beach area surrounded by the Arabian Sea. Exotic and romantic, Afia also attracts the man of her dreams and he’s the head of a Steel empire. His business takes him across the middle east as a frequent flyer. Afia is flying high and loving her life, until her baby arrives and the years slowly turn to Steel Fetters as she challenges the “false morality of the 1980’s.” Her endless love for her child gives her the strength to rise again and again against a difficult backdrop and an unfair situation that life has handed her.

The author, Tina Fernandez, does a good job with this personal experience story. It describes the plight of countless women during this era. While every country had its own way of chastisement for these brave single mothers there is little wonder why abortion became so popular. There were no easy choices and no easy answers for the women who faced the dilemma, especially in India.

Before the baby, Afia’s father held a different dream for her. It followed traditional. He wanted to choose a husband for his daughter. She would retire from flying, become a loving wife and raise a family. This is the way it was done in India, except Afia hated this dream and wanted no part of it. The situation threatened to tear the family apart. Afia’s mother would also have choices to make and they would not be easy.

Tina Fernandez is a successful author and business woman who keeps the cause of single motherhood close to her heart. She champions associations that support these brave mothers as they choose life for their children. She knows what a high price they are paying in a society that has false values and, “false morality,” when it comes to unwed mothers. Her book will speak to women of all ages, especially single mothers. It may also speak to the children of these single moms; the children who appreciate the sacrifices their moms made to keep them safe. On a deep level, Steel Fetters is a story about society and moral norms that do not serve humanity and how one woman challenged them. She broke through what seemed like steel to build a secure and happy home life for herself and her beloved son.

How to Remodel Your Home Without Demolishing Your Marriage

In the eleven years that my husband and I have been together we have moved five times; we have built four homes, and remodelled four others. I am very familiar with what a couple can expect ‘under the influence’ of construction. Beyond this, my husband is the founder and owner a very successful Design/Build firm in the San Francisco Bay Area, so we have a lateral view of what many, couples go through, over and over again.

The emotional tax during a remodel is very real, indeed. Yet because there is little available information about it we tend to take the hard rout. We think, “Oh, it’s not as bad as other people make it out to be!” or “If we don’t make a big deal about it, everything will be just fine.” And, actually, what choice do we have?

Less than halfway into it, many couples realize that not only is there a huge emotional side to their project, but that it is far bigger than they had imagined it could be. We have all heard about couples who divorced, or nearly separated, after building their dream home. Answers to the question of “why” are limitless, but the bottom line is this: if they knew what to expect and/or had some guidance, they may have still liked each other once their home was finished. Remodelling is a huge deal, and it is not for the faint of heart or the uninformed. Even if you have a very strong marriage, there are likely to be emotional side-effects you would rather avoid, and could, if you exercise the care necessary ahead of time.

Because of my own challenges with this personal aspect to remodelling, I had searched everywhere including book stores under home-construction; home-remodelling, and even the self-help aisle. But I found little that paid the slightest attention to the emotional fallout of home-remodelling. It was just as frustrating to search on-line for any comprehensive guidance that could arm couples ahead of time. All I was looking for was something that would both confirm, and ease, the impact home-remodelling has on domestic life and -not least of all- on marriage.

Remodelling is a multi-layered entity to say the least. There is the physical project which is worth many, many layers all by itself, and then there is real-life before, during, and after the project. As involved as the project will be, your relationship needs equal care and consideration.

I sincerely hope that this article will aid in revealing some common (though not so strange) issues before they become problematic, and lessen the element of disappointment in those you can not foresee.

The sense of accomplishment that comes with witnessing your project to its completion can be very satisfying indeed. The greater reward of such projects, however, is the sense that the experience has brought you and your spouse closer together; that you can enjoy looking back on it ALL with more pleasure than pain; and that the great care you took of your relationship will fill your new home with the natural air of completion, and comfort. These are memories in the making for you both, so it is important to be aware of what is happening between you as you grow your new home together.

My goal is to help you position yourselves for offering greater kindness to one another throughout your entire building process.

Nine Essential Steps.

Essential Step #1

Decide together, that you need to decide how to communicate with each other

Revise your skills; explore new Skill-sets. Buy a book on effective communication for couples, and READ it together. Take a short workshop TOGETHER. But make it fun because fun is an important binder which makes learning something potentially ‘ho-hum’ much more… well FUN! The more intelligent you are the more you will need it, simple because you are more likely to reasonably talk yourselves out of it. But take my word for it, find a way to agree on your communication styles, and (I’ll say it again) have FUN with it because you will need to be able to deal with potentially uncomfortable issues when neither of you feels like it, or when you are both exhausted.

Essential Step #2

Decide on what is true for you!

a. Do you really want that library? Is it essential that you buy your tile from Italy? Can I really live without a room of my own for my projects? When we remodelled our kitchen I hadn’t thought about recycling. What a blunder on my part because I believe in recycling. I could kick myself because what’s true for me is that I feel responsible for how I live on my planet. So, that is a value I neglected at the time. Why? Honestly, I just didn’t want to argue with my husband over it. That’s ridiculous! But I learned Essential Step #2 from it and have applied it elsewhere, thank goodness.

b. Champion your partner’s truth. This is very important. It is a very engaged form of active-love that pays dividends. When your partner trusts that you not only know what they want, but that you will protect it, everyone relaxes. Remember that you have to ask them what they are not willing to give up; what they absolutely must have to feel satisfied with the design or handling of the job; and what they definitely do not want. Please do not forget to think of your own answers to these and other questions of your own. Once you are clear about what you want you must tell your partner. If they are to be on your side when you need them they must be informed. We generally can not be expected to support what we do not know about. Even when we are aware of our partners needs it is still sometimes difficult to keep it all together.

Essential Step #3

Make the commitment!

Yes, you are actually going to do this remodel. So often one person is on board completely with the project and the other one isn’t that keen, but they tell themselves, “we need the room,” or “It will make her happy,” or “my husband decided …so I had to go along!” Whatever your reasons and/or reservations, if you are moving forward with the project then do what ever you needed to do to get on board with the reality of it, and plan together how to make it work for you both. When one of you can not wait to begin, and the other is not enthusiastic at all, you will likely create deferred resentment. And for good reason I am afraid. Someone’s feelings, opinions and needs, are not being taken care of. Both of you need to win, and both of you need to feel safe and supported if this is going to go as smoothly as possible.

Essential Step #4

Accept the idea of multiple choices!

1. Mono-Way

2. This or That Way

3. Sky-Way

This step provides flexibility. Think Bamboo verses Oak. When considering these nine steps, remember that you have as many choices as you can dream up. In other words, stay away from the mono-way attitude I call MWOTH (MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY). Remove the stifling air of a stale-mate as in the either/or (this or that way) choice. Brainstorm! The sky is the limit when it comes to ideas. That’s sky-way. Make it a game. How many solutions can you each come up with in 60 seconds? Whoever has the most choices, wins. Let yourselves have fun with it; be silly and outrageous; be real and practical too. The point is not to edit yourself, or each other, when playing this game. You will be surprised at the very practical ideas you can build together from just one ridiculous notion.

Essential Step #5

Choose your POA!

a. What is a POA? Position Of Attitude means: adopt how you want to be with the larger picture. Do you want power-struggles? Do you want the culture of your relationship to continue to feel friendly and efficient? Do you want it to feel honourable, clear and unencumbered? Do you have realistic expectations? How do you want to behave when problems come up; personal disagreements; billing issues; budget concerns? The more you think about, discuss, and decide on ahead of time (in terms of how you will be with each other at such times) the better you will likely preserve intimacy. Intimacy and trust are the assets most often at risk during power-struggles and blaming.

b. Decide what out-come you want. This sounds simple enough but it is worth re-claiming. Do you want this to be a happy experience? Do you care more about the bottom-line than about how you treat one another? Is there a middle ground that has wiggle room for you both? Is there a way to view it all so that the budget remains sane AND you don’t shatter your relationship over an inflexible iron will?

If you do actually care more about the bottom line, then you have a real challenge. Either you should admit it and deal with the consequences, or find some way to soften your approach so others don’t turn on their heels and run away from you as fast as they can. You may really want to preserve your intimacy, and your partner’s trust that you are always safe for them to problem solve with (or whatever). However, maybe you’ve been accused of being really controlling or perhaps even overbearing. In this case, you may feel it is important to find a way to get a grip on what drives you to the point of losing your grip on the big picture. An active decision to deal with this part of yourself, is a huge act of love that your husband or wife will absolutely notice.

c. Accept the idea of multiple choices: Remember this from Essential Step #4? This is a great tool to bring into building your position of attitude. You can choose what ever attitude you want to have. Remember that the attitude you already have is one you are allowing yourself to have. I know that you didn’t come by it accidentally. You earned it through time and experience. Yet, have you ever noticed that there are statistics to back up every point of view on just about anything you can dream up? It’s the same with our attitude about anything. So, decide between a selection of attitudes you would most like to hold, and then find the evidence to back it up. It’s there if you look for it.

d. From blame to game: The bottom line here is there is no room for blame. If you are creating this project together; championing one another; claiming and sharing your POA; brainstorming for fun and choices; if you are learning and declaring what is true for you… then there is no room for blame. You will find that you are both on the same team, and you’re not just pretending to be. Your finished house will not give you back the love you laid at its foundation, nor can it replace the intimacy and trust you sacrifice to it for the sake of any part of it. And dollar equity alone feels very empty at the end of the day.

Essential Step #6

Creating Memories!

Develop an attitude of adventure. This is so important. Get real! Let’s face it; this project is not essential to survival. It will make life easier; your friends may be impressed; you will have more room and hopefully everyone will have the space to be who they are in the new digs, but it is not a question of survival. Don’t make it about survival. Make it about the adventure and about the stories you get to tell together for years after. You want to shoot for the kind of stories you can safely tell your grandchildren.

Essential Step #7

There are several solutions to every ‘unique’ problem!

This goes along with the idea of multiple choices. You don’t get to misbehave just because you think your issues are unique and this exempts you from: giving up your mono-way attitude; or from effective brainstorming; or from championing your partner; or for that matter, from honouring what is really true for you. Solutions come from Ideas, and good ideas come from you. Recognize the possibilities that are unique rather than the problems that are unique. Brainstorm ways that the unique possibilities may actually take care of the issues at hand.

Very Essential Step #8

Do NOT give up your tools of sanity!

This kind of temporary situation will always take too long. If you practice yoga; if you go to the gym; if you meditate; play soft-ball; go for long walks; play scrabble; see your friends… what ever keeps you sane when life is normal, it is even more important to do them now! Do not accept anything less at this time, and I encourage you to really support one another in absolutely making this happen.

The love you two have, the history, the kids, the pets, the sorrows and the pivotal moments you share together, are all far too precious to compromise even over a house. It doesn’t matter how much the house is worth now, or how much it will be worth.

Extremely Essential Step #9

Making it Count!

This remodel will take several months of your lives. Make the shared experiences count toward the overall quality of your relationship and toward the tone of your individual lives. This is a growth experience anyway you slice it. Make it count personally, and in what you learn about being in relationship. Make it count spiritually if you have that persuasion. Make it count in the examples you will set for your children or friends who will go through the same challenges on similar projects.

This final step is by far and away the one that I care most deeply about. In the work I do with grief coaching, it is so clear to me that radical changes in our lives create great losses for us as well as great opportunities. The losses ask us to grow up a little more, and the opportunities as us to share what we’ve learned. Tearing down and rearranging our home is an experience that stirs our core sense of survival. This is why many people do fly into a survival-mode during a building project. It taunts ALL instincts of self-preservation; currency, shelter, and domestic and emotional safety, to name just four. But remember that this is an optional ‘danger’. It is as it were, both perceived and self inflicted. We volunteer to hold onto the image of a better life for ourselves. If all goes south, you could suffer a financial loss, but you probably won’t die. Not unless you make yourself, and others close to you, sick with worry or fright.

So make this whole experience count toward who you want to be personally, with your family, and in the world. This way, no matter what happens, you will feel more able to handle anything, simply because you chose; committed to; and preserved who you wanted to be long before the issues arose and it became too overwhelming.

Suffice to say during times of great change we are asked to address our core values. We must do this for the sake of your mutual success, both personally and as a team. We are also being asked to face up to what we want most. These are the essential agreements that we must cling to when we have extreme anxiety, worry and fear. Take care of your selves, and take care of each other. If you begin with these essential steps, you will go very far in achieving success at every level. Your sense of personal pride will extend beyond yourself, and years from now only the glow of fond memories will arise when you remember this time together.

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With my warmest gratitude.

Chaise Lounge – Why You Need One in Your Dream Home

Are you looking for the right furniture to maximize the limited space in your home? If so you should think about getting a chaise lounge, a multifaceted items of furniture that brings style and convenience to your home environment and everyday life.

So why are they so stylish?

Chaise were once the furniture of choice for French nobility and later crossed over the ocean to America where they became a fixture in homes and on patios and around pools.

They have a chic look with just a hint of delicious decadence. It’s easy to imagine Garbo or one of the other Hollywood vamps of the ’30 draped over one. And no Hollywood pool would be complete without a selection to relax on.

How are they so versatile?

Chaise lounge are convenient because you can use them in so many ways. They’re perfect as day beds or sofas and outside they can be used as sun loungers. So if you fancy a siesta, no need to disturb your bed, just sprawl out on your lounger and you’ll be nodding off in no time. Or is reading a passion? To concentrate on a good book you really need to be relaxed and this is exactly what you get from this fine item of furniture.

How do you choose the right lounge chair for your home?

Buying one is a romantic adventure, You have so many styles to choose from and so many materials, too. Your first consideration is whether you’ll be using it indoors or outdoors or both. this will influence your choice of material.

The most common indoor materials are teak and wicker while for outdoors, aluminum and plastic are popular owing to their weather resistant properties.

On your shopping expedition, you’ll need to take note of your existing furniture and decor so that you can choose one that will blend in.

I’m sure now you can see why every home needs a chaise lounge. Not only is it an extremely stylish piece of furniture but it can also enhance your lifestyle in so many ways.

Miracles And Seeing God As Divine Revelation

These are good, honest questions about seeing God, but they arise from the confusion of the ego mind. These are thoughts concerning the body; they are questions of the body being asked by the body.

Or “did Moses see God” in reality, or things like “is Jesus God?” And then, perhaps, “If He created me in His image, why doesn’t he simply appear before me, where I can see Him, so we can have a face-to-face conversation? He is capable of anything.”

We’ve all at some point raised the question about seeing God. You will have the similar or same ego questions that have risen in all of us at one time or another if you have not already. “Why does God send out signs or signals to us when He could simply speak to us plainly in our own given language?”

A kind of Daze of Sort

Our dream state in this instant, the nanosecond of the dream of life where projected bodily images make the world we see, is of our own image-making– not God’s.

Try to begin understanding that God does not extend Himself as a projected image, so seeing God does not come about. We’ve made our own image of God. While projections are necessary as the essence of any dream, He is not dreaming.

The fantasy of a body as who you are does not carry with it a mind. Minds do not have actual physical features, such as a mouth or vocal cords to speak through. We are the extension of God’s Mind, not of a body.

It’s all a dream, and that’s why we aren’t actually seeing God.

Remember, when humanity as a whole slipped into a dream of sort of being separate from Oneness, it was a separation of mind and not of body, but such as a quick day, so to speak. Seeing God and life in this world this way leads to more balance and our full potential

Sure, God did create us in His Likeness of Mind, but the body is our own self-made fantasy fashioned to hide our guilt from separating.


Miracles ask, “Could it be some dreams are kept, and others awakened from? A Course in Miracles then answers, “The choice is not between which dreams to keep, but only if you want to live in dreams or to awaken from them.”

This answers things like did Moses see God, or is Jesus God? Seeing God was Jesus entering the dream with messages to help us awaken.

Think of when you are in a daze or daydream of sort, or had a frightening thought, only for an instant, and someone gently nudges you to awaken.

Extension of Mind

If so, you are now experiencing the Oneness of Mind in the Real World, or true reality. The ego is quick to interrupt. If you’re not with me here, even briefly, that’s okay, because if you have a willingness, within time It will come to you as a divine revelation.

This extension of God does not have any involvement with time, because time is a part of the dream. When we do awaken wholly and are seeing God, time will have meant nothing.

Since all minds are one, or altars if you will, within the One-Minded realm, then our power to extend (communicate) within this Oneness is seen as miracles in the dream. Are you with me here where seeing God is concerned?

If you’re having trouble with this, your willingness is proven, but your vision is blocked by the fact of your effort. Throw out the effort by seeing your willingness as God’s extension.

To your power to extend

A Trace of Modernism in Thomas Hardy’s Work – Jude the Obscure

The term modernism is widely used to identify new and distinctive features in the subjects, forms, concepts, and styles of literature and the other arts in the early decades of the twentieth century. But especially after World War I .The specific features signified by “modernism” (or by the quality modernist) vary with users. However, but many critics agree that it involves a deliberate and radical break with some of the traditional bases not only of western art, but of western culture in general. Important intellectual procedures of modernism, in this sense, are thinkers who had questioned the certainties that had supported traditional modes of social organization, religion, morality, and also traditional ways of conceiving the human.

Modernists wanted to create art which intersected with the world in new, strange and disturbing ways. Indeed, they wanted their work to basically rebuild new concepts about the world and the way human beings experience it. Modernist writers saw themselves as estranged from their world, the sense which led many of them to be exiled or alienated from the societies in which they had grown up. In the following parts, there will be a focus on a number of key areas which were influential in remaking the world in radical ways. These key texts have been used to show how the society of the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries shaped modernist works.

In the recent novel of Hardy, Jude the Obscure, the characters are in an everlasting illusion about truth and their language is not only a transparent means of communication but a kind of obstacle to perceive each other’s meaning. On the other hand, by generating a new sense of religious faith he demolishes the traditional idea of faith and Christianity and let the characters and especially women breathe under the given liberty which is achieved by this loss of faith and moreover captured in a loneliness that is the direct outcome of the new philosophy. All Hardy’s desires are encoding new moral standards within the society which is bound to traditions.

The first difficulty in understanding the novel as a Victorians buildung novel is thematic and stems from the portrayal in the text itself of misreading that have been done by Jude. Jude sees in Christ minster and its university the image of an achievable ideal world. His desire for this ideal vision involves a rejection of reality. For his own occasionally controlled and some times partially understood world, he substitutes the image of a unified, stable, and understandable world. Delighted for his desire for order, he starts by studying language with two purposes one as a means of entering to university life and as a possible way of establishing a firm character.

Jude feels betrayed. Consequently, in his attempt to learn Latin he finds that “there was no law of transmutation, as in his innocence he had supposed” (Nineteenth century fiction. p, 31). Jude’s desire of “law of transmutation,” the “secret cipher” to a system of translation could exist only if a prior permanent code existed to allow a free substitution of signifiers for one autonomous signified.

The metaphor of translation at this early point in the novel is very interesting. It both reveals that Jude’s desire for an unexcited frozen text that its content might be transported without change or harm in to the element of another language. This will continue to be decisive issues throughout the novel. At this point , Jude has no doubt that the voice of nature can be read and translated, for example when he ” addresses the breeze caressingly,” it seems to respond: “suddenly there came along this wind something toward him- a massage… calling him,’ we are happy here!'(Jude, I.iii.22). However, very soon perceives that language is not a fixed system through which meaning can be transferred from one system to another. Yet this is exactly why Jude refuses to reply to his other readings of the world around him.

As he travels in to countryside where signs of indirect limitations imposed on his life stand to be decoded, Jude’s reading continue: “The only marks on the uniformity of the scene were a rick of last year’s produce …and the path… by which he had come …to every clod and stone there really attached associations enough and to spare- echoes of songs… of spoken words, and of study deeds” (Jude, I.ii.10). History, echoing across the generations, seems to focus on Jude at the bottom of “this vast concave” filed (Jude, I.ii.9), but he does not understand its voice yet. This quality of country side is the essential aspect of the tradition in to which he has been born. These are marks and signs and associations in the landscape of Wessex which is the immediate force of all events. Thus, long before his birth, long before the story of his family has been inscribed, this tradition has already traced the pattern of occurrence of all events in his life but he was not able to read the determining book of fate.

At the beginning of the story, the young Jude seems to see the schoolmaster, Plillotson, as the main power of his controlling “dream” (Jude, I.iii.20), and as a symbolic substitute for the absent “real” father. According to this illusion, when Pillotson leaves Marygreen, Jude replaces him with an ideal representation. Jude reads that ideal presence in to the natural land escape of Wessex as Chrisminster, “that ecclesiastical romance in stone” (Jude, I.v.36). Moreover he finds out that the truth he fixed for himself is not fixed when Philotson marries with his love, Sue. This is the time he faces with the frustration and alienation of himself and society as he sees all the truths he established for himself just an unfixed one which later will be shifted to the other ones that tey are not fixed. Then the tragedy occurs.

Sue Bridehead is also presented in the metaphoric language that names Christminster . Jude has seen, “the photograph of pretty girlish face, in a broad hat, with radiating folds under the brim like the rays of halo” (Jude, II.i.90). In fact ,the process of replacing Sue with the dream of Christminster and Phillotson in Jude’s dream has been facilitated by the nature of Jude’s language long before he is conscious of Sue: earlier , he had become ” so romantically attached to Chrisminster that, like a young lover alluding to his mistress, he felt bashful at mentioning its name” (Jude, I.iii.22). The transfer from phillotson to Sue as a sustaining vision is thus a simple misconception of truth and the reality around Jude, about his beliefs and thing he loves that some day he considered them as the embodiments in his life.

Furthermore, it is the beginning of other false visions in the Jude’s life. Jude’s false reading of Sue at a chapel in Christminster as being ” enciphered by the same harmonies as those which floated into his ears” leads him to conclude that he has ” at least found anchorage for his thoughts” (Jude, II.iii.107) . When Jude finally meets Sue, he approaches her cautiously and speaks to her as he has spoken of Christminster, “with the blush fullness of a lover” (Jude,II.Iv.117). At each step of his story, his controlling dream is a fiction that he imposes on contrary conditions. From the beginning then, the object of desire is not “real” in any sense, but is an “illusion” or creation of Jude’s own mind, as are the “ghosts”( Ninteenth.C.F. p.572) that haunt Christminster.

Another important trace of untruthfulness of language and the illusion which highlight it is in the connection with the constant letters that reaffirm the importance of writings, signs, words, and marks in the lives of these characters. There are the least thirty-two letters exchanged in the novel, including one- line notes (“because we are too many”) to full-sized epistles, directly or indirectly, delivered or not delivered. The great number of letters emphasizes on the importance of the “letter” in the text as the symbol for the force of illusion.

The first of these letters between Jude and Sue was the one for their first meeting, although it was considered one of those ordinary ones, too impassioned. By the time Sue is engaged to Phillotson, Jude is receiving sudden ” passionate” letters(Jude, III.i.153) from her , that seem to close the psychic distance between them in a way that they can never be seen as the imitation of their personality.

-It is very odd, that you are often not so nice in your real presence as you are in your letters, Sue!

– does it really seem to you? Well that’s strange; but I feel just the same about you, Jude. ( Jude,

A letter is a medium that effectively separates the writer from the effects of the message, while the massage received the reader creates the effect by himself. Even in their coldest tone of Sue’s letters, while she was forbidding Jude from seeing her, she was a gain establishing a new communication between themselves and Jude could establish the effect by himself. Similarly in Phillotson letter when he abandoned Sue he paradoxically kept holding on her.

Moreover, when Sue writes a letter, she both removes and maintains her absence and distance. This simultaneity of absence and presence is basically the consequence of written language and shows more general mystification of Jude in perceiving the meaning.

Sue is completely a desirable woman, but she also becomes a sign in Jude’s mind for an absent source of meaning. According to this discourse, the act of writing becomes reinforcement for the illusion of presence and fades its innocence and transparency. Sue’s letter can never replace her, but her “real presence” is never as the same as the original self in the letter. The written word does not allow to access to the thing itself, but always creates a copy of it that sometimes moves the reader of the word more strongly than can the real presence of represented thing. Thus, the curious result is that the graphic sign, rather than the actual presence, of the desired becomes the cause of emotive energy. For Jude this point is a necessary illusion that is placed in the syntax of his dream without origin. Here the priority of present is distinguishably clear; when they don’t have the presence of each other language is not understood but when they talk in the presence of each other it’s not that hard to convey the meaning.

Jude’s tragedy like every other tragedy comes from inner tensions which shapes the action but not from indifferent force of circumstances. Jude is frustrated by Sue; his desirable woman as he is by Oxford, another shine of intellectual life. Frustration is the everlasting condition of his life. Even part of his love is rooted in frustration too: he wants her endlessly because he can never properly have her. He loves her too, because of himself; he has in himself a narcissism which responds to her, a self reflection of the intellectual life, of his ideals and ambitions, of the taste of intellect which he had first projected onto christminster.

But the truth and the power of the novel are in the way which Jude, in the end, is able to understand his love for Sue without lessening it. Until the closing scene, he tries to make Sue conform to his emotional sleight of mind: he dismisses his ideas of the unchanging conventionality which he held behind Sue’s nonconformity by calling up both his own worthlessness and that ill-defined marriage – curse which has been the lot of his family.

The turning point is the death of the children, where Jude matures as a man and learns to get along with endless disappointments until he can accept them more or less without self pity, but Sue remains in her fixed narcissism and does not change. Yet all these subjects of the novel such as Oxford, marriage, or even frustration leads to a final one and that is loneliness. This is the condition that without it the book would have no eminent power. When the characters are together, they are often hardly conceived, and sometimes don’t conceive at all. But when they are left to themselves they begin to think, feel, act, and even talk with that strange emotionally that is unique.

The major power of the novel is in the general sense of Jude’s tragic loneliness which is the basic motive of every incident. He is isolated in his marriage to Arabella because she has no idea of what he is about, and doesn’t care. He is isolated by the marriage to Sue because she is frigid. Moreover, the sense of loneliness is intensified while both women are presented in the novel in a way that their characters are less than as projection of Jude about them.

Jude’s first marriage was a real trick; in his first outing with Arabella, he enters to an inn then he sees on the wall a painting of Samson and Delilah, a clear symbol of his male sexuality under threat. Living with Arabella, in no means could fulfill his ambitious sprit and had no idea of Jude’s mind at all. In his second marriage, Sue stands as a bodiless girl who afraid of any sexual relationship and remained fix in her ideas of nonconformity which led to a kind of exile from society which consequently both lost their job, their children and finally the only thing they had: their love.

On the other hand, Sue’s loneliness and self destruction is. While Jude is, even at the end, able to talk of dying” game” (Jude, p.394).Jude offers explanations for this phenomenon, ‘the blow of her bereavement seemed to have destroyed her reasoning faculty’ (Jude, p.368), and raises questions a bout it:” what I cannot understand in you is your extraordinary blindness now to your old logic. Is it peculiar to you, or is it common to women?” (Jude, p.359). Sue’s actions and reactions are constantly faced with this lack of understanding from others, whether by Jude or Phillotson. This is because with all her mental alertness, she married Phillotson without ever considering the physical quality of marriage. Deep instinct made her avoid the consideration. And the duality which persuade her to become a male sprit rather than belong to a male sprite by marriage, made her responsible to self-destruction. Any suggestion of physical relationship was an extra confusion in her.

Her principle was the ultra-Christian principle of living entirely according to the spirit , to the one , male spirit, which knows and utters, and shines, but exists beyond feeling, beyond joy or sorrow, or pain, exist only in knowing. According to this, she was herself, but let her to be turned under the influence of the other dark, silent, strong principle, of female, and she would break like a fine instrument under discord. Yet, the suppressed, decayed female in her, was always in her and suggest her to make the fatal mistake. She contained always the rarest and the most deadly anarchy in her own being.

One of Hardy’s foregrounding attempts to pose as a modernist thinker is to put the truth under the question. But in making this situation thematic, it does allow the meaning to exist. We are not dealing simply with an absence of meaning, instead as an allegory of the breakdown of referential system and the transparency of language. There is no natural truth written anywhere that might be read without being some how changed in the process. The text of associations that characters construct around themselves is interrelated with different interpretation and differences in which the meaning of dreams and the desire for illusions are extraordinarily paired. All the truths in their life, after being fixed, changed to illusions after a while. They tried to fix new natural truths in their mind but it doesn’t take so long that they find them just images that achieving them is nothing but illusions. Every thing in Wessex begins with repetition, with secondary images of a meaning that was never present but their signified presence is reconstituted by the additional desires of characters.

It is the time when the alienation of Hardy characters from the world they live and the society occurs; as they lose their jobs, their family’s relation and over all their children. It is the time, when the self destructive treatment of the characters is obvious. On the other hand, the lack of transparentibility of language is obvious through the learning process of Jude, fore example, when he intended to learn Greek and Latin language and grammar. Many times it was mentioned that he found the grammar and the words untranslatable and meaningless. On the other occasions the characters found that written words do not transfer the presence of the meanings that are intended to be conveyed and they always complained of seeing different character of each other rather than what is presented in the letters.